Finding a table big enough! Short of using huge folding tables we're kind of at a loss when shopping for a table big enough to seat us all. This spring we are taking on the challenge of building one. On the plus side we can add seats to make room for all the stray kids that find their way to our house at feeding time. That old saying about animals is true for kids too, if you feed them once they keep coming back!
Family says stupid things sometimes. I heard we ruined being a grandma for one of the grandma's because she couldn't get to bond with so many kids. Don't ask me how teachers do it year after year apparently 9 kids is just too many! Or the we don't want you to have anymore in case you die! This isn't the 1800's and I'm healthy the chances of me dying in childbirth are pretty slim. I could make a whole blog post about stupid things family says, but that's not what this one is about. I'm just going to move on.
Stupid jokes people make which they think is funny, but really isn't. I can't tell you how many times I've heard the vagina clown car joke. Oh, and the ever popular they must fall out by now. When I'm pregnant the snickered warning of don't sneeze. Some of the jokes are so mean, yet friends put them out there like it's the funniest thing they've ever heard or said. I want to scream YOU'RE NOT FUNNY, but usually I just ignore them.
Being told we're selfish for having so many. This one I really don't get. The definition of selfish is:
self·ish: having or showing concern only for yourself and not for the needs or feelings of other people. How exactly does having a mega family make one selfish? I suppose I should take other peoples opinions of family size into consideration? Yeah not going to happen!
The pews at church are not big enough for us all to fit into one. We did it on Christmas though and I was quite impressed with myself for making it happen. Even if it was 200 degrees.
The next thing on my list is people who think they have a say on if our family is complete. They will say we have enough, are we crazy, don't have anymore etc etc. I don't know why having so many kids open the door to people feeling bold enough to interject on our family planning. I could never imagine walking up to someone with one child and being like you have to have more children! I have a sister who wants no children and I would never dream of telling her you must have children how could you possibly want no children that's not normal.
In the end as I stated before the good outweighs the bad. There are so many beautiful, wonderful moments that make all the stupid things disappear. Moments I will remember forever. And I will share one right now. THE LOVE!!!!